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5 Ways To Cultivate Self-Love In The Age Of Social Media - Mended Hearts

The practice of cultivating self-love is an integral part of living healthy, wholehearted lives. It’s easy to fall into a social media world full of content that can hinder your ability to truly love yourself. It’s not a coincidence that social media has “feeds” that we scroll through. We consume these feeds for hours on end, which profoundly affects your health and well-being. The quality of these sources of information and energy are directly related to the quality of your life.

How then can you cultivate self-love?

  1. Detox your social media.

Unfollow and delete accounts that don’t lift you up, inspire, or add value to your life. Remember, like we feed ourselves with food, we also consume media and content. This goes for music, movies, TV, books, news, websites, and of course, the accounts we follow on social media.

By unfollowing or unfriending people that don’t serve you, you’re releasing these toxic and “junk” accounts from your media diet. Junk accounts are ones with empty content, or content that is not of high value. Think of these accounts like big distractions and roadblocks to loving yourself. They only distract you and throw you off track as loving yourself requires surrounding yourself with people (online or in-person) who inspire you to be your best possible self.

After you detox your social media, you are creating a beautiful space for high-value accounts to follow that provide inspiring content.

  1. Create space for a higher quality feed

Once you’ve unfollowed accounts and people you don’t truly feel aligned with, you now have space to follow accounts that offer value, inspiration, and substance. Choose accounts that align with your goals and values in life. The higher quality accounts will motivate you to be your best self and ultimately, to love yourself. Let these people and ideas be your fuel for loving your best self.

Who are some inspiring creators you follow on social media already? Who would you like to add to that list?

  1. “Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Remember that people’s social media accounts are highlight reels of their lives. When you start to compare your everyday, “normal” life to other’s spectacular, curated “lives”, it can be very difficult to love yourself. Nobody is better than anybody else. Find your true value and express that through social media, and know that everyone is different and unique.

  1. Limit your social media time.

If you’re going to use it, set a timer or a time limit allowed per day. You can also delete the news feed section from Facebook. Better yet, delete the app entirely from your smartphone. This will save you hours of wasted time! There are many tools to strategically use your time in an effective way. Set yourself up for success by taking advantage of your time. Think of all of the time that you could save from scrolling on social media by actually getting out into the world and experiencing life. The more you experience life, the more opportunities you have to love yourself.

  1. Focus On What Feels Good

Find what brings real joy into your life. It’s easy to get temporary happiness from the number of likes and follows we get on social media, but this is fleeting joy. It’s like eating junk food. It feels good while we’re eating it, but afterwards, we don’t feel good about ourselves and crave more! Instead of relying on how much interaction you’re getting on Instagram or TikTok, start to value your time by doing things that bring you authentic happiness. Getting in nature, connecting with friends and family, going on an adventure, or diving into a hobby that makes you lose track of time are great places to start.

When you cultivate a life that feels genuinely good to you, you’re less likely to seek that fleeting moment of feeling “good” when you get a certain number of likes or views. Setting this foundation of true confidence, self-love, and respect for yourself releases insecurity and the desire to seek approval from others.




Thomas, M. (2017, September 26). 5 ways to cultivate self-love in the age of Social Media. Sivana East. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from https://blog.sivanaspirit.com/mf-gn-cultivate-self-love/